If you are a parent of a toddler or preschooler there are enough and more times you would have had to deal with an angry child. Especially since this is a phase when they are exploring their individuality and sometimes not getting their way around it, anger is a normal emotion. But for kids lashing out becomes their first line of defense. When children find it difficult to solve their problems, resolve conflicts, or seek help, they rage to get their needs met.
It will be unjustified to say that anger is limited to toddlers alone; it is an emotion you deal with at every stage of your parenting journey. . What is essential, therefore, is how you deal with it.
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According to Parenting coach Lahar Bhatnagar, who is the founder of Nirvanama and an Author, a child's anger is a way for her to express an opinion to seek validation.
Understanding what triggered the anger in your kid is the first step in helping him cope. Read on for effective Techniques you can follow to shape your child's behavior.
- Take a Time out. Ask your child to take a break by going to their room or elsewhere, till they calm down. However, if the child is violent or aggressive, then it is essential to first stop it. You may offer them to sit and try doing some long breathing and count from 1 to 10. This will in turn help them calm down.
- Show Empathy. Showing empathy is one of the most effective tips to handle an angry child. When your baby is in rage try to communicate the reason for their anger. This conveys a positive message to them that you care, and are responding to them rather than reacting. They realize that you are letting them express themselves.
- Set a Routine. Religiously spend 15-20 mins every day one-to-one with your child to develop conversation and bonding. Make sure they get at least half an hour a day for physical activity. This will help them get rid of that excess energy that can fuel anger.
- Spot the Triggers. Try to observe what makes your child angry. Avoiding such situations will help in controlling anger outbursts. And if it's difficult to avoid such situations, helping your child understand the unavoidable occurrence may help calm your child.
- Prevention is always better. When you see your child is about to throw a tantrum try to distract her or engage her in any other activity. Showing affection helps too. A warm hug always works.
Communicating with your child is the right way to connect with them at all times, not just when they are angry. Though not professionals, we have tried to bring together a few tips from experts and parenting coaches. Hope they help you in difficult situations with your child.
