One of the best instruments at our disposal to teach good habits is feedback. Feedback if provided incorrectly, will be ignored, sever connections and harm your kid's self-esteem. You will observe behavior, attitudes, and learning improvements in behavior, attitudes, and learning if you give feedback adequately.
Here’s how to deliver feedback to make sure it sticks:
Make it specific
Giving feedback on your kid's behavior, ability, or attitude at a time is vitally necessary if you intend growth. Feedback should be detailed rather than generalized so your youngster knows precisely how to improve. Additionally, it must be given without passing judgment.
It’s got to be timely
Giving feedback to a toddler half an hour after they've had a tantrum in public will ensure there is no impact. For young children, feedback must be pretty immediate.
Keep calm while you Deliver it.
Children typically receive negative feedback from irate parents. Regardless of how well you chose your words feedback delivered angrily will prompt the flight/fight response from a child. When you're angry with them, they won't listen to you and will either ignore you or engage in an argument.
Ensure it’s descriptive
Use phrases and terms that have real meaning for kids rather than vague, non-descriptive language such as ‘be a good girl, so kids not only know what’s expected but they understand how to meet your expectations.
Give your feedback sparingly
Children undoubtedly demand approval for all of their drawings, homework assignments, and scribbles since they have always been given feedback on any of these things. Children must establish their internal sense of validation and honest self-evaluation since when they get older and experience adversity, they must be able to look to themselves for strength and acceptance. If they can't, they'll be much more subject to superficial external approbation in the form of peer pressure, bullying, and regular social scrambling.
